You don’t have to do much of that to keep your kids safe. Parents have a hard time talking about sex with their kids, and certainly a harder time talking about sexual assault. How can parents prepare their children for sex in college? “I don’t want to victim-blame girls, but there is individual responsibility…” And the boy is going to say it’s totally unfair. Whatever punishment you give him, the victim is going to say it’s not enough. No matter where you are, you are going to run into this issue.

If those people are handling it, I feel much more confident that this will go better.īut we’re never going to get around the fact that sexual assault is really hard to prove.

Now they’re hiring almost exclusively former criminal prosecutors and defense attorneys. All the prestigious private schools are starting to change their Title IX offices. So we have a side that has never been able to give its own story. Because of federal privacy regulation laws, can’t speak publicly about any individual case. We only think that because the media tells us that. Or she was in a blackout, and that’s where it gets really crazy-was she conscious, not?įirst, I don’t think they’re doing as bad a job as everybody thinks. Generally, in college the most common situation involves a girl who’s passed out. I think the truth in many cases is a bit murky… unless the guy had a gun, unless there are bruises, unless there’s physical evidence, which is pretty rare in these kind of cases, because these cases are about consent. We’re talking about acquaintance assault, not physically violent assault-boys who take advantage of girls. How should colleges respond to rape on campus?

Blurred Lines by Vanessa Grigoriadis